“Dear Aunt Edith,
I am absolutely fuming. My best friend is constantly ditching me to hang out with her boyfriend. I mean, I understand she wants to hang out with him sometimes, but even if me and her boyfriend are there at the same time, she barely talks to me and clings onto him like a parasite. It’s nauseating! She acts like such a jerk when she’s around him because he’s got this awful influence on her. The worst part is she doesn’t even realize what she’s doing or how I or our other friends feel about it!
Your best friend probably wants her boyfriend to accept her and like her a lot, so naturally, she would try to stay around him a lot and adopt his personality a bit. That’s what she thinks she’s doing. But actually, she is pushing you and your other friends away on order to be with him more. This can be frustrating for, (a) the friends, (b) the boyfriend, and (c) the parents – everyone’s parents. It can be difficult to tell her how you feel without offending her.
Try to get her to realize what she’s doing without telling her. Maybe when you invite her over, add a line such as, “Unless you have plans with ****** or something…” If she realized how uproportionate the amount of time she spends with her friends to the amount of time she spends with her boyfriend, she might solve the problem.
Or, if she’s the kind of person who would respect your opinion if you told her how you felt, give it a go and see where you get.
Middle school relationships usually don’t last that long so…
P.S. Nice username